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Location: My Mom Has Cancer....I am lost.
Discussion: trauma and shock
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Beccy3 Beccy3 |
trauma and shock
May 28 2007, 4:03 AM EDT Hi there, I just found out today my mum has a soft tissue sarcoma cancer in her leg. There is also a dark shape in the middle which may/may not be malignant. It is fast growing. They want to operate and begin radiotherapy in the next 6 weeks....sh'e reading up on all types of treatment, including alternative to try and decide what is the right thing for her to do. I too feel lost, I am so sorry to hear of your mother and what you are having to go through. Of recent i have been seeing a councelor for other traumatic events in my life. Also a homeopath. Both of which are a huge huge support and i would recommend for anyone dealing with heavy emotional issues. It is possible you(and i) are in a state of shock and trauma. Difficulties connecting with and 'feeling' our emotions, or a kind of 'numbness' to feeling can be signs of this. I had this once before in my teens(I am now 26) and eventually came out the other side, although the other side then had new dimensions to it......but such is life. If you can create a safe enough space for yourself(perhaps with a support councelor) that would provide you with opportunities to explore and then express your feelings. Lastly i would like to say be kind to yourself. Such life changing things take time to comprehend and adjust to and live with. You are coping with a lot right now. i hope i didn't write too much here, peace Beccy Reply Quote and Reply Do you find this valuable? |
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My mother had cancer too
Jan 27 2008, 4:07 PM EST I was very touched from reading your stories because I've traveled down the same road 20 years ago when my mother had cancer. Its always so difficult and hard to accept the fact that a loved one has been stricken with cancer. At 22 - now 42, it was very hard to tackle the emotions each day seeing my mother deteriorate from this horrible disease and I guess the one thing that really helped me pull through this was to keep a journal of my emotions, anger and kind of point them in the direction of the Father upstairs and I always asked - Why? I never got an answer and still to this day I believe that there was a reason for my mothers passing - she was needed - she's a beautiful angel looking upon us and probably in a better place. It helps to write down your emotions and keep a journal instead of holding it inside. To all of those who are traveling down a bumpy road with this disease, I sincerely hope and pray that the road becomes smoother for you. Marcia Maloney, Raleigh, NC Do you find this valuable? |
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RE: trauma and shock
Apr 16 2008, 3:37 AM EDT Hi! I read all your stories about your moms having cancer and your reactions towards it. I am from Roxas City, Philippines and I am about to experience your plight knowing that your loved one might or has cancer too. Although it's not my mom who had cancer but it is one of my grand children-a one year old granddaughter. I cnnot explain how i felt but writing the feeling released some of the pain inside. I really pity her considering how young she is and that her life has barely just began and this...! We are not affluent and thinking the expenses that will go with the treatments, I sometimes wonder where in the world we will get the money to support her treatments. Of course we wanted to give her the best treatment that we could have but considering our financial status, I guess it would be a miracle to give her one. But don't misconstrue this statement that we have abandoned the idea of giving her the best treatment that we know of. We are trying our best, that is, from the known medications given by doctors and to herbal medicines. But I firmly believed that the best medicine we could give is prayer-firmly hoping and praying harder that she will surmount the trials and that there will be a miracle that will happen to her young life.For those reading this and who have experienced or about to experience the feeling of knowing someone you love is affected by cancer, I fervently hope that God will give us all the answers.I believe that if He wants this thing to happen, it will happen even though how much we tried to prevent this to happen.Probably there might be something good that will come out from this trial.Don't be hard on yourself.Just believe in Him. He will find a way when there seems to be no way. bing Do you find this valuable? |